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Monday, December 15, 2008

Myers, J. (2003). The Search to Belong: Rethinking Intimacy, Community, and Small Groups. Grand Rapids: Zondervan/Youth Specialties 

Edward T Hall realtionship between space and culture - proxemics - use of space.

Public 12 feet
Social 4-12 ft
Personal 18" to 4'
intimate 0 - 18"

Public - what would it look like in our congregations? Can we be comfortabel with people belonging to Jesus and thet church in public space? Can we give them hope, amd home in teh space where they choose to belong? Without pushing then to come coloser? pp44

Social belonging is important for 3 reasons. Neighbour relationships; safe selction space fro us to decidse with whom we would like to grow a deeper relationship; allows us to display a reality we create of who we are .... helps other withtheir own process of self-discovery and definition pp 46

Belonging can not be measured in numbers. You may count arrendance, but to give a conclusive number for those in your congreagation who experience community is impossible.... if we change our measuring tool, it may lead us to conclude that we need to question our definition of congreagtion. Who belongs to this congregation if we measure by story. pp80


James, O. (2007). Affluenza.Vermilion 

"The Affluenza Virus is a set of values which increase our vulnerability to emotional distress. It entails placing a high value on acquiring money and possessions, looking good in the eyes of others and wanting to be famous.Just as having the HIV virus places you at risk of developing the physical disease of AIDS, infection with the Affluenza Virus increases your susceptibility to the commonest emotional distresses: depression, anxiety, substance abuse and personality disorder (like 'me, me, me' narcissim, febrile moods or confused identity)."

"A major pollutant of the Virus-infected person's inner life is their self-consciousness, triggered by excessive concern about what others think of them. By definition, they are preoccupied with recognition and status, conferred upon them by others. Their fragile self esteem needs constant bolstering from outside, so they tend to agree with statements such as 'I'm self-conscious about the way I look' and ' I usually worry about making a good impression'. It's hard to go with the flow if you are focusing on your faults or inadequacies, fearful of feeling foolish for something you have said or done, excessively alert to the danger of seeming incompetent to others. People with such high levels of self-consciousness are at greater risk of depression, neurosis and narcissism." 112


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